Wondering what to Blog?

Hi Friends,

             Yesterday one of my best buddy wanted me to write something in this blog. I really did not have a topic to write may be because i was busy with my work. But still i cannot deny when she asks. So just thought of writing a poem playing with syllables (in other words TR Style).
Here goes the poem/rhyme however you name it....

I was wondering as what to Blog
            Without letting my mind to clog
I did not get a topic to describe
            There came this poetic vibe

 This is my first poem
             And sounds like nursery rhyme
First step is always required
             If something really has to be acquired
As I said this is my first step
             Which has given me a pep

 Having started this poem
            Wondering what could be the theme?
Too many people have been laughed at for their dream
            Thus most of them have failed to gleam
Believe in your vision when others do not
             No matter, you may be regarded as snot
 

Make excellence your way of being
            Practice more smiling
Do the work that is scaring
            Otherwise you are not growing
Spend an hour without simulation
            Of Facebook , twitter , mobile & television

 Victims condemn change
            Leaders grow inspired by change
If you are not failing regularly
            You are not progressing probably
Commit to mastery
            Don’t accept mediocrity

 I love the readers of my Blog
            For them I can always slog
Finally as I promised I did the job
            Because I never want to Fob

I love to hear your comments :-)

Again its time to Thank

Hurray!!!! Its 2250 Page views :-) :-) :-) :-)

Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it. – William Arthur Ward

So I never miss an opportunity to Thank people who has helped me to achieve in life.

I thank all my wonderful readers heartily.

I thank all my best buddies who stand behind me in each post.

I thank all the authors of the books I've read till now (have lotz to read yet). They have taught me the writing style.They have given me wonderful vocabularies.They have planted a big seed of Positive Attitude in me (Its in sapling  stage now.. it'll still grow).

I thank every reader who has read my blog once in a while.

All these little contributions have made way for 2250 Page views.

I thank all the friends who had taken time to comment to my posts(may be in message or directly in blog). each comments are worth a million dollars you know ?

Dancing with joy... and I wish to have all your support for each post of this blog .

How to make people Love you.

Recently I read a book written by Dale Carnegie. A book on how to influence people.

Childhood is the age we dare to dream. One such dream of mine was to become a Psychologist. I love reading people and their mind. In that age my thought was a psychologist is a magician who sees people’s heart with X-ray glass :-P. It is short story why I could not achieve that dream. Lets have that for another post.

I digress. How to influence people??

If I ask you a question as who is the person so close to you?

Most often the answer would be name of the person to whom we share everything. Isn’t it?   Yes. The person whom we consider close is the one with whom we can share anything. More than sharing, they are the people who readily hear whatever you say.

I’ll repeat again:”They are the people who readily hear whatever you say”.

 Hearing is a great gift from God. You may be capable of hearing but what is required is the quality of listening. People often tend to ignore when others speak and fail to listen. When you listen what the other person is sharing with genuine interest you will become the person they trust.

6 ways to make people like you :

1. Become genuinely interested in other people :Don’t act. Be sincere. Show genuine interest in what the other person speaks. 

2. Smile: Dale Carengie says “Smile is your messenger of goodwill. Your smile brightens the lives of all who see it. To someone who has seen a dozen people frown, scowl or turn their faces away , your smile is like the sun breaking through the clouds.” 

3.  Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.When  you first meet a person , know their name. However hard may be, remember that name. If it is hard to remember write that name few times and you’ll remember. 

      For months before Roosevelt's campaign for President began, Jim Farley wrote hundreds of letters a day to people all over the western and northwestern states. Then he hopped onto a train and in nineteen days covered twenty states and twelve thousand miles,traveling by buggy, train, automobile and boat. He would drop into town, meet his people at lunch or breakfast, tea or dinner, and give them a "heart-to-heart talk." Then he'd dash off again on another leg of his journey.

        As soon as he arrived back East, he wrote to one person in each town he had visited, asking for a list of all the guests to whom he had talked. The final list contained thousands and thousands of

names; yet each person on that list was paid the subtle flattery of getting a personal letter from James Farley. These letters began "Dear Bill" or "Dear Jane," and they were always signed "Jim."

Jim knew that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound.

Remember that name and call it easily, and you have paid a subtle and very effective compliment. But forget it or misspell it - and you have placed yourself at a sharp disadvantage. 

4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves. 

5. Talk-in terms of other people’s interest. I’ll tell you, no one is interested in your story and history. Let the other person speak.Speak his areas of interest.
6. Make the other person feel important-and do it sincerely. 

 Other points worth noting :

·                     Remember Birthdays,

·                     Greet people with animation and enthusiasm

·                     Appreciate people – not flattery.

            The next time you enjoy a good idly/dosa at (say) hotel Saravana bhavan, send word to the chef that it was excellently prepared, and when a tired  salesperson shows you unusual courtesy, please mention it.

·                     Show gratitude

Try leaving a friendly trail of little sparks of gratitude on your daily

trips. You will be surprised how they will set small flames of friendship that will be rose beacons on your next visit.

·                     Show true love –Don’t fake

Did you ever stop to think that a dog is the only animal that doesn't

have to work for a living? A hen has to lay eggs, a cow has to give milk, and a canary has to sing. But a dog makes his living by giving you nothing but love.

It never read a book of Psychology.  It knew by some divine instinct that it can make more friends in two months by becoming genuinely interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.

            More than influencing people , I wish relationships should be true and genuine. Hope this post would help a bit for it.

 

Happy Anniversary !!

Tell me who your friend is, I’ll tell who you are…

Words of wisdom never go wrong. It is true that our parents are the first teacher on earth. But they are the teachers for primary level .As we grow our friends become our teachers. Knowingly or unknowingly we adapt to their behaviour where we mould ourselves in that stage.

Choosing a Friend is solely your choice. When you choose the good one you are going t win and if you choose a bad one your failure in life is made certain.

Henry J.M.Nouwen has said that “When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions , or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tenderhand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of powerlessness,that is a friend who cares.”

My friends are very few and all are true.(seems like a T.R dialogue.. but fact is fact even when said in T.R. style :-P). I always had my friends who stood by me in my hard times. They were with me in all the joys, grieves, pains, celebrations, wails, laughter, victories , failures , pleasure , peace and prideful moments.

“Every friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born".

I would not have become a CA without my friend Archana who was the first reason for me taking up the course. I would not be a blogger for my friend Vidhya encouraged me to write a blog. I did not know the value of money till I had the friendship of my friend jingly. I did not know the sharing between friends till I had the friendship of Sowmya and Divya. I learnt how to be positive with my friends Viswanathan, SP  and Indira.

                                                 Every friend of mine is unique.

    (Onnonnum sample piece uh :-D) They are unique in their own ways. I love them for what they are in my life . I always know, they love me the same way as I do.

All these together have made my world happy today. It’s been 9 years since I’ve lived in this world of friendship.It started on June 17th 2004 ...with words "Idhu XI G Ah?"... and the journey never ends. I wish a Happy Anniversary to all these friends.

My First Love and First Hero

Every Son's  first hero is his Father and every Daughter's first love is her Father.

Most of the People whom you have in your life is purely your choice. You can choose whom to have and whom not to have. But that is not the case with Father and Mother. It is purely God's will.If at all I am given a chance to choose my Parents I will choose to deny the chance given to me.
I've heard people saying that my father distributed sweets to the entire street where we lived. I've heard my aunties saying that my Father celebrated every minuscule movement of mine. He ecstatically recorded my alarming talks.. where my voice was too far from decency and very much close to horror movie :-P
He cherished my scrawling and doodles as an work of art.
He is a reason for what i am today. Words fall short when i try to explain my Father's love towards me.But My Father didn't tell me how to live ; but his living teaches me how to live.

I dedicate these lines to all the Fathers in the world...  

A dad is someone who

wants to catch you before you fall
but instead picks you up,
brushes you off,
and lets you try again. 

A dad is someone who
wants to keep you from making mistakes
but instead lets you find your own way,
even though his heart breaks in silence
when you get hurt. 

A dad is someone who
holds you when you cry,
scolds you when you break the rules,
shines with pride when you succeed,
and has faith in you even when you fail...
 
Happy Father's Day!!