Be Yourself !!

Hi Friends,

I have seen people adjusting to get love. Everyone tend to change for their loved ones. Changing for loved ones is not wrong. But do these changes last long?  Well, if it is a from-heart- change out of realization, perhaps the change will last longer. But when the change is to satisfy others would that last long?  When you are forcefully trying to change yourself, will you be happy with that change? Truth is, you pretend to be normal with that change, and when it is boring you go back to yourself.

Many people fail to understand that when you forcefully change yourself and get love, you are not getting that love for ‘whom you actually are instead it is for who you act like’. The love you get is true. But it is not for you. Isn't that better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not?

Accept people as they are. Problem with human mind is –We don’t see things as they are, we see things as we are .Don’t try to change them. Each individual is unique. There may be similarities but not alike. Don’t expect people to play someone’s role. They would be best when they play their own roles.

As we all know, Change is the only thing which cannot be changed. Each one of us undergoes change. Change in appearance, in behaviour, in attitude, in character, in level of maturity and everything. The changes should be a natural one. With each phase of life people change, those changes are natural. Those changes are to be cherished.

Don’t force yourself to change for someone. Rather be honest to yourself than to impress someone. People who truly love you will always stay with you. I am blessed that I have people who truly love me and people who accept me as I am.

Life is short. Nothing lasts forever

So live it up, drink it down and laugh it off.

Avoid the bull shit,

Take chances and never have regrets

Because at one point, everything you did was

Exactly what you wanted  J

 

LOVE

People wait

all week for Friday,

all year for summer ,

all life for Happiness.

Yesterday a friend of mine said I have reduced weight. After a gala dance in heart and hiding that ecstasy I said “No I have not reduced weight. May be you feel so “. She is a well wisher of mine. So again she asked me “Do you have anything which worries you much? Is that the reason you seem to lose weight?” Without even thinking a moment I replied “I am surrounded only by people who love me. I have nothing to worry about. In fact they are there to worry for me. I am mess. So sometimes I myself ponder upon a thing and start worrying about it, which would be petty issues at the end. But Frankly speaking, I have nothing to worry about “

She was happy with my reply. Ha! After giving that reply I was also happy. As if she readily understood my mind, she said “Yeah! You have a loving family with a wonderful bonding and hence they will take care of you”. Sometimes I won’t let the other person to interpret more. So interrupting her I said “True. But it is not the family alone. It is my friends and their relatives. It is also my acquaintances love me and that is the reason I am not worried at anything. “

I am blessed. I have so many people to love me. I give and in turn get lots of love from everyone. What you sow, so you reap. I accept the fact that I am happy. The simple acceptance boosts me so much and energises me.

This is a reply perhaps she did not expect.  Immediately a poet in Tamil literature flashed in my mind.

The poet was an aged man but his looks were young and he did not have even a single grey hair. (Wait! Those days there was no dye). When a learned man asked the poet reason for his young look, this was his reply:

It is because my wife is virtuous, my children have gone far in learning,
my servants do what I wish, my king protects me.

Also, in my town there are many noble men who are wise and have self-control. 

Wow! I appreciate my memory. Now, coming to the point, the poet has quoted so many reasons for him being happy. He considers his entire town and men living there, his king for his happiness. But, these days happiness is much concentrated on self. Even then, people fail to accept that they are happy.

One day when I was conversing with another friend of mine, she told me People would feel jealous if we say we are happy. So she never says that she is so happy to anyone. What I feel is, when you say you are happy, the word impacts you. It brings joy; it would make you feel happy.

Feel the love everywhere. World is meant to be loved and lived. Don’t wait anymore.

“The place to be happy is here. The time to be happy is now.” -Robert G. Ingersoll

Thaayumanavan (Brother who is also a Mother)

Few hours before me he came to the earth

To briefly glance whether it was safe for my birth

From that day he dutifully plays his part

His love has always swept my heart

Though born in different wombs we are twins

Together we have seen many autumns and springs

Having a brother is owning a treasure

When he also happens to be friend

The joy has no measure

He has a stunning style and affable smile

For me his face is truly a lily of the Nile

He awes me with his altruistic nature

Which still I have to nurture

He has made me cry bringing tears like stream 

He would beam when I crazily scream

Yet we share our dreams however extreme

If written today they would be in ream

He cares like a mother and wares for me like a father

Even when I trouble much and make him bother J

Now the distance has made him stay farther

Where I wish to be his soul rather 

He makes parody which would amaze

For his dance I always go craze

People love his phrasing for its innocent glaze

And also for his smile which always blaze

Without him my childhood memories are nil

I remember the treasure hunt we played with thrill

Even my smallest wish he will fulfil

Much of my strengths are that he instilled

Not only in movies that a brother would cook

When sister is engrossed into her study book

Till date he has never forsook

Though at times I’ve been brook

His sacrifices for me are countless

At my success he would go speechless

His wonderful nature is he never gets jealous

He should reach great heights for the qualities he possess

More than a brother, he is a Friend

I wish to be with him till my end

Yes! We are twins born in different womb

And Together we always bloom

I wished My 50Th post should be about him:-)

Thanks to Preeti Shenoy.. she made me to introduce such a wonderful person to many round the globe :-)