Do you choose to be Karna?

We all know Mahabharata is a great epic and even when we do not know each and every incident in it we know the main characters in it. Karna is one among such few. It is indisputable that Karna is one of the most fascinating characters in Mahabharata. I personally admire Karna for his charity, as a great warrior, his loyalty to friendship even when he knew he was against his own brothers. In fact, when I think about the way he was killed in the battle I turn disappointed with Krishna.

Everything happened for a reason. And Mahabharata stands as a great epic even till today.

When I analyse little of Karna’s life I learn that, Karna all through his life was not happy. Not happy even for a moment. It is true everywhere he was insulted for his illegal birth. Whenever Karna rose as a great hero, people used his birth which was his weakest point as a weapon to bring him down.

All Karna wanted all through his life was recognition, name and fame. Karna could have been happy in many ways. Though he did not know who his true mother was, his parents (the chariot and his wife) who brought him up were too caring and loving. As they were childless, they considered Karna as a gift and brought him up with all their love and care to this child. Inspite of this, Karna was not happy. He chose bitterness.

Karna was very much talented than Arjuna and anyone for this matter. Everyone knew that Arjuna cannot win Karna if they stand against each other in war. He was not happy with that.  Dhuryodhana considered Karna as his best friend and even made Karna as a king. Karna was loyal to his friend but not happy. He chose bitterness.

It is learnt that after Karna’s entry, every step which Dhuryodhana took never missed Karna’s suggestion. Whenever Shakuni suggested something, Dhuryodhana would turn to Karna for his approval. Only when Karna seems fine with the idea, Dhuryodhana used to take actions. If at all Karna, had said “No” to Shakuni’s suggestions and made Dhuryodhana understand the truth, there was no need for such a drastic war.

It is not that Karna did not know what he was doing was wrong. He knew. Pretty well, Karna knew he is on the wrong side. But all his life Karna tried to support his friend and show his loyalty to him, but not to correct him and preach him about good things. Karna chose enemity. Karna chose bitterness.

As we sow, so we reap. From the beginning till the end, Karna opted for bitterness. He always wanted name and fame but not happiness. He wanted to prove him as a great warrior not as a happy man. As he wished, he always stands as a great warrior and inspire every individual with his tremendous loyalty to friend, and his outstands every other character in Mahabharata with his charity.

But Karna was never happy. From his birth till death, he carried bitterness. He did not choose to be happy. As I always say, how others see you are not important, how you see yourself is what makes your life. Every man wishes for name and fame. No one denies it. People crave for recognition. In this pursuit, they fail to recognise the happiness which lies with them.

No matter what, be determined to be happy.

Spread happiness around you. Give a drop of it to each one you meet every day. Its speciality is - its quantity never comes down by giving it. Rather, it increases more. By giving happiness you feel happier than before.

Decide right now, and never turn back. Do you choose to be Karna?

Spread smiles. Make a difference with your smile. Make world a better place to live in.

Note: I know I have taken a critical character here. There are many fans of Karna who would oppose me for what I‘ve told about him. Am myself a great fan of Karna and that is the reason which made me keen in knowing his life and analyse his life more than anyone else in Mahabharat. I pity him for he didn’t choose to be happy throughout his life.

          

You cannot please everyone.

Hi Friends,

  

The Picture above conveys a wonderful message. Isn't it?

You can be the ripest, Juiciest peach in the world and there is still going to be somebody who hates peaches.

You cannot please everyone you see. There are people who dislike you, for whatever you do. They’ll hate you if you are pretty. They’ll hate you if you are not. They’ll hate you for what you lack and they’ll hate you for what you got. You will never be good enough for some people. Ask yourself “ Is this your problem or theirs??”

 When you try to be everything for everyone else, you lose yourself and that is what they wanted in first place.  If you find yourself constantly trying to prove your worth to someone else, you've already forgotten your value.  Don’t do this to yourself.

Never compare yourself with anyone. Don’t think you want to have so many people loving you as someone else does have. Social comparison is the thief of Happiness. Give your best .Love everyone. Don’t try to be like someone, they aren't you.

Remember, Confidence isn't walking into a room with your nose in the air, and thinking you are better than everyone else; it’s walking into a room and not having to compare yourself to anyone else in the first place.

Highly confident people have no interest in pleasing everyone they meet.  They are aware that not all people agree on things, and that’s just how life works.  They focus on the quality of their relationships, instead of the quantity of them.   When you let go of the need to impress everyone, that's when you begin to be truly impressive to the few people who actually matter. 

Treat yourself as the most important person in the world, and treat others as you treat yourself. Having said this, never judge anyone. Judging a person doesn't show who they are it just shows who you are. So pay close attention, and respect people for who they are and not for whom you want them to be.  Loving and respecting others means allowing them to be themselves, whether you choose to be a part of their life or not.

Start noticing what you like about others and tell them.  Having an appreciation for how amazing the people around you are leads to good places – productive, fulfilling, peaceful places.  So be happy for those who are making progress.  Cheer for their victories.  Be thankful for their blessings, openly.  What goes around comes around, and sooner or later the people you’re cheering for will start cheering for you. Most important don’t do this to please them, do this because you will feel good after appreciating and encouraging someone. This seems Selfish right? Well, there is no mistake in being selfish when your selfishness is bringing joy to people around you.

Stop living to please everyone and start living in a way which pleases the most important person in the world that is “YOU”. Just be yourself. It will be good to know who is down with that.