Have you ever thought about the
difference between need and want?
NEED, WANT – Such a fine line isn’t it ?
Economics gives you a lengthy
description differentiating between the two. Am a Chartered Accountant by
profession , but then my area of interest is always psychology. (Never late to
take up!) .
Economics did not teach this.
Science did not teach this. Religious studies did not teach this. A person who
very recently came into my life has taught me this. That very difference
between NEED and WANT. Yes ! exactly that thin line .
Wants are nothing but wishes.
Wishes are limitless. When we get what we desired, we desire for the next
thing. This is endless.
Each relationship is unique. The
love we get from each is unique. One cannot replace the other. Every
relationship demands some care, responsibility and commitment. No relationship
is exception. Each bears its own commitment and responsibility. It is equally
true that no relationship can be one- sided. That doesn’t work so in the long
span. We have some minimum expectation at least from each relationship. When
those wants (i.e. expectations) are not met by the other person, relationship
fails.
The Commitment in each relationship
is the need. The expectation towards each relationship is want. Sometimes we
are so much focused on what we want; we miss the things we need.
There is no tailor made spouse. The concept of a perfect match is a far-told lie. A relationship lasts as long
as the people in that relationship mutually want that to last.
Eventually there came a day where I had to learn this difference between want and need and the person who taught me the same happens to be my husband :-)
He is not a perfect
Husband. I am neither a perfect wife for him. In many instances he has not given me what I
wish. Even today at times, he readily says a No- if I ask him for something.
But this MAN of mine has allllwayssss
given me what I need. The utmost important thing for a relationship is Love,
Care, Trust, Respect and Protection as a husband. He has never missed giving
these to me. Interesting part of this screenplay
is- My wishes would be silly ones whereas my needs are the pillars to this
relationship of ours. And he knows my needs better than me :-)
In Life God doesn’t give us the
people we want. Instead he gives us the people we need.To teach us , to protect
us and to make us exactly the way we should be .
PS : Thank you Sir ji !! Not for
teaching the difference but for being a reason behind my blog entry :-P
