Ssssshh!!!!
The kid is there. Mind your
tongue.
Don’t speak whatever comes to your mind. Your
child is watching. Look at your actions.
Your child doesn’t listen to what you speak but notice and repeat what you do.
And many many more.
Often a person who is liberal and doesn’t mind
what others think about them becomes so very cautious about them after a kid is
born. They become responsible not only for their actions but also for kids’.
I am also one among many of so called “world-revolves-around-kid”
type mom. But then, recently when I was
travelling in metro to my workplace. I
am sorry to say this, but I overheard the conversation (not intentionally) of
group of same type of moms.
They were all going to an occasion organized a
common friend who has never bothered to attend any of her other friend’s
function. I was wondering as what could be the reason to attend such a person’s
family function . So now I intentionally started to overhear their
conversation. They all needed a reason to go out together. They chit chatted about their good old days.
Their college, the friends, the teachers and how those teachers dressed up, whom
they admired the most etc .
As the conversation continued they all started
making fun at each other and started living their good old days . They
mentioned that “we cannot speak whatever we speak among friends at home as in
laws and children would be watching us”. The moment I heard those words I
remembered how I have turned out now. I have forgotten who I used to be and now
when I think about me I am always reminded that I am a mother and no other
identity.
I miss those good old days. I miss the long
chats and calls. I miss being in person to whoever was in need of me. I miss
being a listener and comforter. I totally miss being me.
But this is a phase.
My Kid will eventually learn to dress himself.
And sleep in big bed.
He will potty train
And read and write.
He will make friends
And be independent.
But what he won’t do is be with me forever.
And be a child always.
So every mamma out there …. Enjoy the present.
The future will happen, I promise.
