Hi
Friends,
How
are things going on?
I
just don’t take relationships easily (poor me L).
Not
only my relationship with others. I love watching people around me and their
relationship with their loved ones as well J .
A
relationship can never go long without words of love, actions which shows
love, few fights, many sorry , miss u
and even hate you :-P . These are part
and parcel of love. Saying sorry doesn't always mean you are wrong.
There
may be few instances where your words/actions would have hurt your loved ones.
You would be totally unaware about that just because you did not do /say them
with any intention of hurting them. But when you discover that you have hurt
them, there is nothing wrong in asking for an apology though you did not mean
to hurt. A simple and sincere apology does not harm you in anyway. In fact, it
helps in keeping the relationship intact.
Having
said this, Do you feel you are apologising for everything you say/ do
unintentionally?
Say,
Whatever you speak /do is ending up in hurting the other? Though you did not
mean to hurt them in anyway? This may turn out like, you end up asking so many
sorry for the mistake of saying /doing something. Too many sorry is not good
for a relationship. Yes!! We end up asking sorry for everything we did
unintentionally where even the word Sorry becomes so irritating to our loved
ones.
Do
take a break. Sit and think. Speak to each others. Resolve the differences from
the root. Ask them how they have felt. Confess for your mistakes without ego.
After this, tell them how you did or how unintentionally this was done where
you did not even dream of hurting your loved ones. Make them understand that
you feel sorry and if you are ready to change them for your loved ones, tell
them that you would change. If that is something which you cannot change, ask
them to bear that alone with you. Everyone has flaws. Agree that this may be
your flaw, but still it is something which you cannot change. Mutually agree on
few things and let the relationship live.
Answer
me, Do u ask sorry simply for being you?
The
things you do in your own way and the words you speak just like that is making
you to say a “Sorry”? Not just in one or two instances. In most of the cases,
do you end up asking a sorry for being you? Then, you are in a risky
relationship. There is something(let me term as “magic element”) with your
loved ones, which is making you to ask so many sorry and that is making you to
keep the relationship intact. That magic element, in other words is making you
feel guilt of being yourself and trying to change your originality.
I
am not against changing /adjusting for your loved ones. Changes can be for
behaviour of yours, not on your character at all. You are what your Character
is!! When you are changing your character, it is nothing but changing yourself
completely. You cannot do this to you. “Your change” and the “magic element”
which has made you to change are not permanent either. Understand this.
Ask
Sorry. Mean it when you say that. A relationship needs it.
But
if apologising has become your way of life, and if you are apologising for the
very way you are!!It is high time to think whether the relationship is worth
all these.
Because,
“You
don’t need someone to complete you.
You just need someone to accept you
completely”
