Tuesday 8 July 2014

What others think about you?



Ethel Barrett once said, “We would worry less about what others think of us if we realized how seldom they do.”
In each little thing we do, we often tend to think as how others might think. If you ask my granny to dance, she would love to dance but then comes her fear as “what others might think if I dance at this age? People would laugh”.

I’ve seen my friends in class who would hesitate to ask doubts in their subjects thinking others would laugh at their silly doubts. Hey! It may be silly to them. But you have a doubt and try asking it next time. Just see, how many would join you for that simple doubt. Even they were hesitant to ask as you did. Once you stand up and ask that doubt slowly others would raise their hands and join you.

No one denies if I say childhood was the best part of life. Childhood days- where we did not bother as to how people think about us. Where we did everything we wanted exactly in the way we wanted it to be done. Be it right or wrong, good or bad, extraordinary or poor we did it as we loved it. Till date that stays as the best part of our lives. 

Some problems in life, such as not knowing what others think of you, are not really meant to be resolved.  How people perceive you may have more to do with them than you anyway.  Forget what everyone else thinks of you; chances are, they aren’t even thinking about you.

Get comfortable with not knowing what other people think. They may even like or dislike you simply because you’ve triggered an association in their minds by reminding them of someone they liked or disliked from their past, which has absolutely nothing to do with you. It is their worry and not yours.

Every individual are unique. Whatever you do, few would love them and few would hate them. It is their problem in any case. Understand people out there are equally busy as you do. When you are dealing with your weirdness here, everyone around you are dealing with their own. If you fear that someone is judging you, it is your own illusion. It’s you judging yourself that’s the problem.


As I said every individual are unique in their own way. Don’t try to be normal. There is no such thing in real. What seems normal to you will be weird to others. Life is all about spending it in your own way.  Always be yourself and walk comfortably in your own shoes. 

The more relaxed you become with your own differences, the more comfortable you will start to feel just being YOU. Celebrate being different. Anyone who tells you you’re doing it wrong… is wrong. When everyone laughs at you for being different, you laugh louder because they are all the same.

How others see you is not important.  How you see yourself means the world

If you find yourself feeling like a fish out of water, by all means find a new river to swim in.  But DO NOT change who you are; BE who you are.

Its been long that i posted here. Sorry guys, I was busy in my own wierd world :-P ;-)

8 comments:

Unknown said...

soooo true akka :) (Y)..dey say gud thngs r worth waiting...a thoughtfull one though it has been 2 months..keep rocking akka ;)

Unknown said...

Bhaat hai!!!

Sowmya said...

My dear Shwe, as you know we are always waiting for your words. Love you so much d..the way you express and explain things are certainly beyond us.

"If you fear that someone is judging you, it is your own illusion. It’s you judging yourself that’s the problem."

Chanceless. These words sum up your entire thought on the subject.

As always you are our sweet devil who come up with the answer, proclamation and solution for our fears,questions and pondering.

Dosalover said...

Thnk u sooo much abhi

Dosalover said...

Shukriya sp

Dosalover said...

No onez parallel to u in expressing ur comments de... u inspire to write more... luv u somzzzzzz

Radhika.A.R said...

Most awaited has arrived today...Your blog as always has a mature thought,delicate wording and perfect tone of expression...To put it in a nutshell it says.....
"Never change your originality for the sake of others coz no one can play your role better than yourself". Thought provoking ka...Lets all try to put it into practice and make remarkable changes in our attitude. Looking forward for the fullest from u my sis....keep going :-)

Dosalover said...

It feels great when I hear that most waited... worth waiting.... luv u radhu... thnk u so much tht yu were d one who reminded its been 3 months exact since my post post.... ha..on then l realised its that looong.... thnk u da... luv u loadsss