Fights

Course of true love, never did run smooth.

Love is a heaven which is capable of giving fights, tears and pain like hell.

I love people. I’ve had fights with every loved one of mine. If not fight, a little mis- understanding at least. Yes. I feel little mis –understandings are required to know much about that person.  There are times, when I cannot understand about my own self. Then how can I expect my little brain to understand others???? Or how can I expect others to understand me better???

A relationship’s strength is not measured with the number of days spent together. It is measured as how easily you can turn back to normal even after a big fight.  When you do not have a fight, it doesn’t mean you have understood each others well. Perhaps, with fights you tend to understand the other person better.

I’ve seen people getting hurted even with simple words of their loved ones. They would   not have said it seriously. They would not have meant what they said. The other person also knows this. But still they feel the hurt. They fight for petty thing and make it a cold war. When you know the other person well, why does their simple word, which was not even uttered with an intention to hurt you, should hurt you?? It just shows you have not understood your friend/ loved ones well. You need to understand them still better.

I’ve seen people cannot bear the anger of their loved ones. Most often people are ready to accept love when poured at them. But not the hurting, not the scolding, not the words uttered in anger. When you are ready to accept love, be ready to accept pain too. No love can diminish with a simple fight. No love can be missed with a simple fight. When you are ready to give up love, just hold down. Think for a while, doesn’t their love weigh more than their hurting words? Anger is also an outcome of love. Why do people fail to understand that behind every fight with their loved ones, there lays a hidden love? Fight is the means which they have chosen to express love. Mode chosen may be wrong but reason behind is LOVE. When this is understood, no relationship breaks.

 

Feel that hidden love. Cherish those little fights. Find love everywhere. Stay Loved!! 

Be Yourself !!

Hi Friends,

I have seen people adjusting to get love. Everyone tend to change for their loved ones. Changing for loved ones is not wrong. But do these changes last long?  Well, if it is a from-heart- change out of realization, perhaps the change will last longer. But when the change is to satisfy others would that last long?  When you are forcefully trying to change yourself, will you be happy with that change? Truth is, you pretend to be normal with that change, and when it is boring you go back to yourself.

Many people fail to understand that when you forcefully change yourself and get love, you are not getting that love for ‘whom you actually are instead it is for who you act like’. The love you get is true. But it is not for you. Isn't that better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not?

Accept people as they are. Problem with human mind is –We don’t see things as they are, we see things as we are .Don’t try to change them. Each individual is unique. There may be similarities but not alike. Don’t expect people to play someone’s role. They would be best when they play their own roles.

As we all know, Change is the only thing which cannot be changed. Each one of us undergoes change. Change in appearance, in behaviour, in attitude, in character, in level of maturity and everything. The changes should be a natural one. With each phase of life people change, those changes are natural. Those changes are to be cherished.

Don’t force yourself to change for someone. Rather be honest to yourself than to impress someone. People who truly love you will always stay with you. I am blessed that I have people who truly love me and people who accept me as I am.

Life is short. Nothing lasts forever

So live it up, drink it down and laugh it off.

Avoid the bull shit,

Take chances and never have regrets

Because at one point, everything you did was

Exactly what you wanted  J

 

LOVE

People wait

all week for Friday,

all year for summer ,

all life for Happiness.

Yesterday a friend of mine said I have reduced weight. After a gala dance in heart and hiding that ecstasy I said “No I have not reduced weight. May be you feel so “. She is a well wisher of mine. So again she asked me “Do you have anything which worries you much? Is that the reason you seem to lose weight?” Without even thinking a moment I replied “I am surrounded only by people who love me. I have nothing to worry about. In fact they are there to worry for me. I am mess. So sometimes I myself ponder upon a thing and start worrying about it, which would be petty issues at the end. But Frankly speaking, I have nothing to worry about “

She was happy with my reply. Ha! After giving that reply I was also happy. As if she readily understood my mind, she said “Yeah! You have a loving family with a wonderful bonding and hence they will take care of you”. Sometimes I won’t let the other person to interpret more. So interrupting her I said “True. But it is not the family alone. It is my friends and their relatives. It is also my acquaintances love me and that is the reason I am not worried at anything. “

I am blessed. I have so many people to love me. I give and in turn get lots of love from everyone. What you sow, so you reap. I accept the fact that I am happy. The simple acceptance boosts me so much and energises me.

This is a reply perhaps she did not expect.  Immediately a poet in Tamil literature flashed in my mind.

The poet was an aged man but his looks were young and he did not have even a single grey hair. (Wait! Those days there was no dye). When a learned man asked the poet reason for his young look, this was his reply:

It is because my wife is virtuous, my children have gone far in learning,
my servants do what I wish, my king protects me.

Also, in my town there are many noble men who are wise and have self-control. 

Wow! I appreciate my memory. Now, coming to the point, the poet has quoted so many reasons for him being happy. He considers his entire town and men living there, his king for his happiness. But, these days happiness is much concentrated on self. Even then, people fail to accept that they are happy.

One day when I was conversing with another friend of mine, she told me People would feel jealous if we say we are happy. So she never says that she is so happy to anyone. What I feel is, when you say you are happy, the word impacts you. It brings joy; it would make you feel happy.

Feel the love everywhere. World is meant to be loved and lived. Don’t wait anymore.

“The place to be happy is here. The time to be happy is now.” -Robert G. Ingersoll